My ex walked out on Christmas Day 2021. When she left she took all my feelings and then all the extra feelings I had involving our one-year-old son. Now at the time I didn't know she was walking away with all of that. I thought okay I'm broken I'm beaten and I'm down but at least I still have my child, God was I wrong. When she left I didn't know that it would be 5 plus months until I saw our son again. During that time I can't pretend and act like I was innocent the whole time. I maybe tried way to hard for her on top of begging to see our son. Where I live we have mediation to try to come to a mutual custody agreement we did that February 22nd and I was so ready to see our son that I willingly agreed to everything she wanted. first it was supervised visits at her house with somebody she knew and I said yes,
then it changed to so many hours per week for 6 months and then maybe overnight 6 months later and I agreed and then I asked for one thing just a couple different hours on Easter than what she had come up with and she immediately backed out. At that point I was lost again I knew I wasn't going to see our son I didn't know when we would go back to court for trial I just know it was going to be a long time. Well before mediation ended she agreed to let me see our son for 1 hour I was stoked I was so excited we agreed to for the next day. Well I texted her plenty early enough in the day to let her know that work was going to run a little late and I would be maybe 10 minutes late at the most I showed up 11 minutes late she wouldn't let me take our son finally my attorney convinced her attorney to let us try again I got him the next week for an hour. Now I have three other kids with a different woman who hadn't seen their brother in 5 months and they were so excited for that hour that when I had to take my son back I saw their world crash again just like mine did. When I went to drop them off she became enraged over something I have no clue what she merely started screaming started yelling and I told her we had to meet at a public place because I knew something was going to happen and so I got in my vehicle and I said take him or I'm leaving now at this point in time where I'm from I can just have our kid and I don't have to give him back if there's no custody agreement then the state automatically assumes you have 50/50 so I told her you need to take him if you want him so you can take him back home or I'm taking him home and he's staying with me well she refused to take him so I took him home the cops came he said listen I can't make you bring your kid back but think about what it's going to do to him and I told the cop I know I am I came home I picked my dad up and my dad was going to ride back with me to prevent any further issues so I drop them off again and here we are May 25th 2022 and I'd seen my son one time now we go to trial in front of a judge and I'm thinking okay this woman's going to be punished for alienating our kid and all this I was wrong I got punished. I get my son for a total of 11 hours a week until September and then come September 18th I'm not sure why that day all of a sudden I just automatically get him five nights in a row and so I asked to judge where this came about and he just said that's his recommendation which I personally don't think is best for my child I think it's too much all at once I think we need to slowly work into it they disagree. So the last three visits the last three days I'm supposed to have my son my ex doesn't bring him she tells me once that somebody that she knows passed away in another state and she was taking our son out of town for it now our son was born in January 2021 so it's a year and a half old, I told her I don't think it's necessary and of course she goes about what her attorney told her she could do this and she could do that and she doesn't need my consent and she can just take him even if he's missing my days well we had another hearing schedule to review hearing during the time she was gone and of course she got to do it over the phone and the judge told her but you do need is consent because it was his day you can't take him on his time but I'll approve it this time. And I said okay Joshua what about next time when this happens again and she said oh speaking of that I'm going on vacation July 24th to July 31st so he's not going to have them at all then either and the judge said I'll approve that vacation too I said now judge that cuts into my time building up to my 50/50 and the judge automatically goes I think you need a mental health and A drug evaluation. Now mind you I don't have an attorney so I'm not sure what I can do but I say on what grounds are you a medical doctor do you can you make these calls and he said son if you question me again I'm resending all your custodial rights and I said of course here we go so now I have three more days to get this done meanwhile I still haven't seen my son I still haven't seen him on a phone call I haven't seen a picture of him and I'm being punished. I've seen my son a total of three times since Christmas and we're going on 7 months and I get punished by the state for it she's got nothing literally the judges court order was exactly what she wrote down in our parenting plan I got nothing I give my son for one holiday this year when he says that we're going to split it she gets Halloween and thinks her Easter and Thanksgiving I'll get Christmas and I don't know what the other big one was so we would split it. Well I get my custody plan in the mail and I literally get Halloween now on Father's Day I got my kid for 4 hours on mother's Day she got him overnight and I'm not saying she didn't deserve overnight but I'm saying I deserve the same as what she gets. What can I do to prove that I've tried everything I don't know why I'm the problem I don't know what I've done wrong but it's not fair for me to be punished for something that I can't control.