Been separated 3 years. In a new relationship and seen the kids just 9 times. Lately the family home had to be sold due to financial issues.
She now says the kids don't want you to know where they' are and don't want to see you.
They won't be interested in mediation and I need to respect t their wishes.
I'm not wel ome at the house and she has limited messaging contact.
Courts are too expensive and time is too long.
I've tried everything else.
Any advice?
Tired of stay strong and be patient. It achieves nothing
The Court will require mediation before they will take your case on, they are so backlogged from the Pandemic and the number of Judges and office staff they lost it is ridiculous. The children do not have a choice in mediation, depending on their ages it is a matter solely between you and her, however, I would not suggest you ignore their feelings. I would not believe a word she says, not unless or until you hear it from the children yourself. Do you pay child support? Is it direct or do you pay via the CMS? If she has a new partner, you can legally get a background check done on him under "Sarah's Law" if he is staying at the house or they are now living with him - if the Police say its only for females they are wrong.
i feel your pain .
she saying what the kids saying could be manipulation / mental abuse.
the court itself is not expensive - around £250 i think now for you to take her to court & caffcass will do a small report for the court.
its the solicitors / barristers which is mega money, so you may have to represent yourself in court/do it yourself mate....
good luck