I think this is unrealistic? How do you separate the cost of heating, water, gas? As a parent supposedly in receipt of CMS for 10 years ( he didn't pay) I do not feel this would be in any way workable. Further, given the element of financial control that exists in many relationships this feels that this would contribute to that?
Having had my daughter stolen by her father and now forced to pay child maintenance I agree it is distressing, particularly given I feel it is not going towards our daughter. But to insist on itemised proof of costs feels somewhat unbalanced. Further, the CMS is not fit for purpose as it is, I'm not sure this would in any way help.
It’s not unrealistic or unreasonable whatsoever. It would 100% work.
The money should be used to cloth and feed the child at the most. Why is it the paying parents responsibility to heat a home they don’t live in? That’s an adult bill and responsibility imo, it shouldn’t come out of money for the child. The child shouldn’t be relied upon to contribute towards an adult’s household bills. But if people would really whine about it so much, take heating vouchers from CMS payments instead. I just feel like a child’s needs should start with food, drink and clothing.
The thing is though, the main custodial parent often wants and chooses to be the main custodial parent and should be responsible for their own household bills. As a non residential parent, I’m expected to pay my own heating, gas and electricity as well as the mothers? Absolutely not!
If you’re an adult and you can’t run a basic household, especially if you have responsibles too, then you shouldn’t be the main custodial parent at all.
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I think this is unrealistic? How do you separate the cost of heating, water, gas? As a parent supposedly in receipt of CMS for 10 years ( he didn't pay) I do not feel this would be in any way workable. Further, given the element of financial control that exists in many relationships this feels that this would contribute to that?
Having had my daughter stolen by her father and now forced to pay child maintenance I agree it is distressing, particularly given I feel it is not going towards our daughter. But to insist on itemised proof of costs feels somewhat unbalanced. Further, the CMS is not fit for purpose as it is, I'm not sure this would in any way help.
But I get it and I get your annoyance.