On the 24th of May she went back to her mums (we had 50/50 custody) and at around 6:30pm I received a message from my daughters mum’s boyfriend saying that she had fell whilst jumping around and smacked her head off of a table, to which I asked if she could be taken to hospital for to be checked over and said I would even be the one to come and get her to do it in case her mum didn’t want to sit about A&E for hours. That initial conversation then lead to him making accusations that “My daughter doesn’t want to go to sleep at my house cos she’s scared to”, anyone will know a 3 year old is going to do everything they can to try stay up. The same 3 year old that comes through after 5 minutes saying she wants a kiss and cuddle, or a drink or to “watch tele with me”. He then created a whole argument claiming that “I like them young but he thinks 3 is a bit much”, accused me of being a shit parent and thought he was in a position himself to tell me how to parent my child.
Come the 26th of May I receive a message to say that I wouldn’t be getting her back without any explanation, just that “it was advised by social work”. I got in contact with them on the 27th and was told that she thinks my daughter is unsafe in my house cos my next door neighbour threatened to batter me during an argument, claiming she was there when the threat was made when in reality she was at nursery and I had just got home from dropping her off.
I’ve had messages to say I’m not being stopped from seeing her but every attempt at trying to see her, I’m told no and “I’m dangerous”, because they’ve ran out of excuses. She’s now claiming I’m not allowed my daughter unless I’m “supervised by my mum”. I haven’t seen my own flesh and blood because her mum, and her mums mum (gran) think it’s okay to be using a 3 year old as an emotional weapon to make me miserable.
It’s went from agreed 50/50 to nothing. Not even with the decency of letting my family members see her.
My solicitor is fighting for contact with my daughter but has said I won’t get legal aid to take it to court so feel like I’m backed into a corner.
was the 50/50 agreed between you or do you have a court order? there is very little legal aid now for family court, hopefully he can help you come to an agreement