Hi,
I can’t really go into too much detail as this is so FUBAR.
been in and out of family court for the last 3 years, first 18 months were with council W, and last 6 months has been with council H.
I have a near 600 page report which consists of nearly 30 pages of incidences which the children have reported neglect and abuse by their mother, and shockingly included their maternal grandfather at one point hitting them and this was all written up by council W along with a couple of other thousand pages over 18 months.
Council W we’re all over the place legally escalating and deescalating in their 18 months purview, and since she was being a “good girl” and abstaining from alcohol and not neglecting and abusing the kids emotionally and physically. The court ruled for them to stay with their mother under the children’s act, this was apparently what the children “wanted”.
Prepare for a plot twist… her sister is also a social worker (trainee), who knows how the system works and use it to help their mother manipulate the system.
She then took the kids and moved back to Council H remit and fell off the wagon 8 months later, even while undergoing CIN meetings.
Councils W and H did have a formal handover from the first family court.
I told myself after council W court judgement i couldn’t put myself through this any more. I don’t know how much more I can take.
I’ve lost my partner of 8 years, my job, my house, my friends, as all this absolutely destroyed me and no one cared, I started seeing that it was just another day to them..
They’ve consistenly lied, screwed with and disregarded the social workers, and the courts throughout, and somehow they still come out smelling of roses… they all hate me and being quite vocal about it, when it was my ex-wife’s alcohol abuse that brought all this on in the first place.. 🤷♂️
I have pushed and pushed for contact and even though my son had admitted he’s lied because he was told to and I have the messages to prove this, social services have glossed over it.
I’m going through all the legal pre-proceedings again now with a view to spend a week in court undergoing a trial again at the beginning of August, and my parenting assessment is negative as I have had no contact with the children. Try wrap your head around that…!
With Council W I did have some contact but they were mandated by the social worker, but council H couldn’t give two shits - and it was ZERO contact under their remit.
The only contact in this has been just my parents as they are the only ones that have been approved as foster carers for them pending Augusts judgement.
With social services and all their “ever present” perception, skills, resources and the best they could do was to tell me to write them a letter.
I’ve told the social worker I want to pull out of the whole thing now, and have nothing to do with it, as it’s clear to me I was led up the garden path with them.
This week coming, i will be getting all the paperwork together and a discussion will be had before formally pulling out and rolling back the funding for legal aid…
am I making a mistake? I plan to wear PAPA merchandise to court if I have to go. 🤔🤔🤔