When contact with your child is already limited, a missed call can feel huge. A blocked number, an ignored FaceTime request or a phone suddenly being taken away can leave you wondering whether your ex is allowed to cut off that connection. For many separated parents, phone calls, video calls and messages are not a small extra. They are the everyday link between visits. They let a child say goodnight, share a school story, ask a question or simply feel that both parents are st

A child can still walk through the door every other weekend and, at the same time, be pulled away emotionally from the parent they are visiting. That is one of the hardest parts of this issue. Many people imagine alienation as a complete cut-off. No calls. No visits. No replies. No relationship. Sometimes that is what happens. But it is not the only way it can happen. Contact may continue while trust, warmth and emotional safety are slowly damaged. The child may still attend

A child refusing to see a parent is always serious. It may be a sign that the child has been harmed. It may also be a sign that the child has been drawn into adult conflict and is losing a safe, loving relationship. Those two possibilities can look similar from the outside. A child may say, “I don’t want to go,” “I hate them,” or “I’m scared.” Those words should never be brushed aside. They should also never be treated as automatic proof of one explanation. The difference bet

Contact rarely collapses in one dramatic moment. More often, it changes quietly at first. A message goes unanswered. A handover becomes tense. A child starts using phrases that sound like they came from an adult. Time together is cancelled, then rearranged, then questioned, then treated as optional. By the time a parent says, “I haven’t seen my child for weeks,” the pattern may have been forming for months. After hundreds of PAPA support calls with parents dealing with separa

Yes. Under the current system in England, Wales and Scotland, contact and maintenance are treated as separate legal issues. That means a parent can restrict, block or reduce contact and still receive payments from the other parent. The paying parent remains financially responsible even if they are not seeing their child. The Child Maintenance Service does not decide who a child spends time with, and it does not usually stop a payment calculation because one parent says contac

Contact rarely vanishes in one dramatic moment. More often, the bond between a child and a parent is weakened by a series of smaller events that can look harmless on their own. A cancelled weekend. A message left unread. A child who suddenly seems guarded. A school update that never arrives. A handover that becomes tense for no clear reason. Each incident may be explained away. Life is busy. Children have moods. Plans change. Yet when these moments repeat, they can begin to f

You went to court. You followed the process. You waited, prepared, attended hearings, and an order was made. Then contact time arrives, and the other parent still says no. That gap between what the order says and what actually happens can feel crushing. It is one of the most frustrating experiences in family court, especially when weeks pass and the written arrangements do not turn into real time with your child. A Child Arrangements Order should mean something. It is not a s

Parental alienation is a complex and painful issue that affects many families, yet it remains widely misunderstood. Most people assume that if a parent no longer sees their child, there must be a clear reason, or that children who reject a parent do so freely based on that parent's behaviour. These assumptions oversimplify the reality and often cause more harm than good. One of the greatest tragedies of parental alienation is how often silence, distance, and lost contact are

A parent misses a birthday. Then another. A favourite cartoon turns into teenage music. A child’s voice changes. Their personality evolves. Entire stages of childhood disappear while the parent remains frozen in memories. Parental alienation does not simply steal time; it steals moments, milestones, and versions of children that can never be recreated. This reality is heartbreaking and often overlooked. The pain of separation is not just about physical absence. It is about wa

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