I miss my boys, I search socials, I still can't find them 16 and 14 now. From Mom to Stranger
I Didn't know I was suffering from CPTSD, one mistake and my children ended up being handed to their father despite me explaining their father had a history of alcoholism, links to IRA (evidence of parents and grandparents glorifying it) and I have video evidence of him admitting to DV and child abuse.
He got awarded full contact of the children and it was agreed I would see them "on a basis consistent with their development". A 7 and a 5 year old when all this happened. Both boys and they literally were my world despite everything.
I would have patchy contact, never allowed phone calls or video calls and all contact had to go through his mother as he was "autistic".
Then the messages from her would come through saying I was texting to frequently (once a week when I wouldnt see them to see how their school week went). Then the messages started about me NOT contacting the school for progress updates on the boys and how if I didn't stop I would be reported for Harrassment to the family. Primarily because they were telling me the boys behaviour was "poor" after seeing me but the school was not backing it up. Then contact began being cancelled, being told they didn't want to see me (always in a public place with his family or him present).
Eventually I had a visit to my house from the police threatening to arrest me and warning me to cease all contact and leave alone.
My mom managed to have some further contact via video call but one occasion she missed due to having a stroke. When she finally got to see them they asked why she didn't want to know them or see them anymore. Explained she had been in hospital and that their dad had been notified.
I haven't seen them since 2017, birthdays, Christmas and family gatherings are a nightmare.
They are missing out on three cousins, missed family occasions, they missed my wedding even though it ended using a divorce because the whole thing was just wrong. They missed their Aunties wedding. They have missed out on meeting my god daughters, my recently found biological sister. The holidays and the memories.
The manipulation was already happening before they cut my mom out and memories that I had made with them had been re-written to make him look glorified and that he had done it, accusations of severe harm which if done would have resulted in death but social wouldn't listen to me when I Said they were being coached and the narrative was being changed